I think Sungmin is completely in the wrong in this situation. I am still a Super Junior fan, but all I can say is that to some extent, I agree with K-ELF. Sungmin is almost 30 years old, so he has every right to get married. The fact that he has a girlfriend and that he is getting married is not something with which I have a problem. It’s the fact that he has betrayed his fans that is the issue.
Please allow me to be clear about what it means to be a fangirl. In some form, every fangirl has at least once dreamt that they are with their bias and even when you grow up and that impossible dream fades away, that part of the fangirlness becomes ingrained into you, so when it comes out that your bias is dating, you can’t help but feel a little disappointed, but still happy for them. That’s the life of a fangirl. A lot of idols are aware of this (subconsciously or not), so they rarely try to flaunt their relationships, because it will hurt fans and will ultimately lead to harassment and trouble. Sungmin knew this, thus discreetly flaunted his relationship to fans in a variety of sociopathic and idiosyncratic ways - none of which I approve of. He didn’t have his fans in mind when he went through all of his antics. It’s fine that he is getting married, I’m happy for him there, but to treat his fans like dirt underneath his feet and with IQs in the low 60s is horrible, absolutely HORRIBLE.
Additionally, Sungmin didn’t have SJ’s best interest at heart when he was playing such a despicable game with his fans. His actions have shed negative limelight onto Super Junior and he should truly own up to his actions. Sungmin is a coward, who hides behind the shadow of his superiors like Heechul and Leeteuk and I am disappointed at him not only as an idol, but also as a human being. His actions have hurt both fans and SJ - that is unacceptable. He will need to do some major damage control before I respect him again.
I totally agree to everything!
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What if, in another universe, I deserve you?
Maybe there’s a universe out there - happening now - where we end up together and when I close my eyes at night, I’m not dreaming the way a normal person would. Instead I’m seeing flashes of our lives in the multiverse.
In this universe, I don’t want a family, but maybe in another, I’m more of the type to settle down. Maybe there’s a universe where you hold my hand while I give birth to our daughter in a white hospital room with pink flowers and fuzzy teddy bears on the window sill. Where we curl up to watch a cheesy movie at the end of a long day in our big, white, suburban house once the kids have fallen asleep.
Maybe there’s a universe where that’s the life I want. Where I don’t second guess everything and I’m not afraid of commitment and of the future and of love. Maybe there’s a universe without all the noise in my head and the pride that makes me so fiercely independent and the coldness in my heart that I can turn on and off like a security fence.
Maybe there’s a universe where I’m the right person for you. A universe where we’re happy. Where we don’t want more, we just want each other.
If you think of it all this way, then it’s like neither of us did anything wrong. You just found me in the wrong universe. That’s all.
Shindong will resign as a DJ from the radio “SimSimTaPa” which he has hosted for 6 years since 2008. The reason is because of 7jib comeback and army enlistment in the second half of this year.